Spring is here. Will you SPRING ahead?
Are you feeling stuck in your life? Do you want to start over and make some changes? Do you feel like Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog Day, where you relive the same day over and over again?
Each season is an opportunity for a new chapter for anyone, and SPRING can do this for YOU. I know that starting over can be scary, but you deserve the life you want, and you gotta start somewhere. Here are some techniques that will help you reconsider your life and start fresh and move forward.
1. Accept the past. You can’t start over in your life if you’re still holding onto the past. Whether be a relationship, job, family or other situation, you need to accept what has happened.
- Acceptance doesn’t necessarily mean forgiveness or understanding. It just means that you have realized something has happened, you acknowledged it, and you are ready to move on from it.
- Remember that pain and suffering aren’t the same thing. You will feel pain and hurt when you’re life isn’t going in the direction you want, but you don’t have to suffer. Suffering is a choice. Nothing last forever, including pain. So acknowledge it, experience it, and move on from it. Don’t center your life around the hurt and the failures; get out of that story and avoid the drama (e.g., “I will never find love again” or “I will never be able to get another job”).
2. Remember that things happen for a reason. This is not to say that you are powerless and that things are just “fated” to be a certain way. Rather, nothing has meaning besides the meaning you assign to it. It’s up to you to make every event, incident, and moment in your life empowering or dis-empowering.
- The lessons you are to learn won’t be obvious; you instead have to discover what your life is telling you. For example, what if you are asked to step down from a position in your career because your ideas for the business are too big or you are taking things in a different direction than what management envisions for the company? Instead of reading this as a failure on your part, think of it as confirmation that you and your boss have fundamentally different visions and that perhaps it’s time to part ways so you can realize your vision elsewhere. Which is a GOOD thing, not a bad thing.
3. When you are ready – MOVE FORWARD. Just do it. Take the first step: hire a coach. Move. Move on. Apply for more jobs. Take out a loan. Whatever your next step is, take it.
- Don’t announce that you are starting over. Your next steps in life aren’t about anyone else but you. Ignore what everyone else says. A lot of their resistance will be about them and not you because it makes them question their own lives. Remember that only you need to feel comfortable with your choices and decisions.
4. Look Forward, & discover your purpose. Thinking about the meaning of your life is one of the first major steps toward making big changes, and it is a great thing to do once you have started to act on your big decision to move forward.
- Ask: what are you good at? What do you enjoy doing? What are you passionate about? What makes you feel like you matter? Answering these questions is key to figuring out what will make you happy and give you a fulfilling life.
- Life is only worth living if you are really living. If you’ve always wanted to teach yoga, why not go for it? You get one one life, so make sure you are doing the right things with it. Don’t wait around for a reason to start living your life the way you want. Do the things you want to do RIGHT NOW.
If you take these steps, I promise you, you will be well on your way to a fresh start, and you will start living each day with more and more enthusiasm. I hope you will spring ahead. No better time than the present.
If you found this helpful, email me (firstname.lastname@example.org), or pm me on @CoachKeren (IG). I promise to reply. And if you are ready for coaching, I assure you, we can talk about that, too.
Happy Spring xx
– Coach Keren